Enough victim-blaming - there's one person at fault here and it isn't Bryony

So it looks like we need to have a chat about victim-blaming, one of those things that has always been around but seems a lot more prevalent these days because social media is so good at taking us right inside other people's heads.

We've all engaged in a bit of victim-blaming at one time or another, I should think, but it's harmful and misguided and we should definitely apply some self-censorship if we catch ourselves about to say something dreadful like: "Well, she was probably asking for it anyway."

Just in case this is a new concept for you, a person is blaming the victim if they respond to news of a burglary by asking whether all the doors and windows were properly locked and there was an up-to-date alarm in place and switched on. By all means, take such precautions if you're so minded and can afford them but someone else is not to blame if they don't. The burglar is at fault; the householder has not brought it on themselves.